Stages of Love
Photography, Fashion Design (2024)
Idealized notions of love define people’s longing for it.
They shape judgments about the beloved, leading individuals to construct an object of desire that conforms to their own internal template of love. Whether someone fits this imagined image becomes the criterion by which love is measured. More radically, choosing to suffer loss for love, choosing to relinquish options, choosing to confront practical values, is taken as proof of love’s power and intensity. Such acts also function as a reward for successfully embodying the fantasized object one imagines oneself to be.
Through continual regulation and reinforcement, idealized love completes a closed loop from subjective satisfaction to social reality, transforming itself from a comforting deception into an unquestioned norm.

Driven by the fantasized Other, people set out on the path of courtship, pressing their itching wounds into the mire of desire, licking pain with pleasure.
Relationships founded on desire and self-satisfaction inevitably slide into imbalance. Emotions concealed beneath the object surge forward with unstoppable force. Moments of confrontation within a relationship are also moments of mutual exposure, in which both parties tear open old wounds and face each other’s bloodied vulnerability.
After cycles of desire and mutual injury comes the most selfish stage. People erect high walls, mark boundaries, and retreat into their own small worlds in search of order. Yet perhaps such cold detachment is never fully achieved, like a child who secretly lifts their eyes to observe.
Relationships originate in trauma. Through repeated verification by reality, the illusory qualities of the object are gradually sacrificed, returning the relationship to the real person. In doing so, the relationship provides a point of grounding in reality, no longer rooted in trauma, nor confined to pleasure.

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Concept & Curation: Hui Ni
Photography & Post-production: Hui Ni
Makeup & Styling: Ruojie Zhou
Model 1: Liu Jianyun, Wo Shi Xiao Lin
Model 2: Wu Siqi, PpVv